“Poor Me” – By Owning Your Voice

When I think of "Poor Me" I think of "Eeyore" from Winnie the Pooh. I can think of many times when I was the embodiment of that energy. Literally stuck in the mud unable to move forward, unable to see where to take my next step and unwilling to take that step. I think of all the wonderful friends that I had who tried so hard to support me and help me get out of the mud. Yet in retrospect, I would say that my biggest struggle was often avoiding fully being present to where I was. It was a tension between where I was and wanting to move forward, rather than really experiencing where I was. I also remember the tension that was created by living in a society where it isn't fully acceptable to "be" broken and embrace the deep, dark emotions. I felt like I didn't always share where I was at in order to protect those around me as I felt it was difficult for those people that cared about me to witness where I was at. I judged myself for even being at such a dark and dreary place in my life. It was in this energy that I discovered the depth and darkness of The Voice of the Saboteur (The Inner Critic / Ego). The Saboteur loves these deep dark places as it feeds its very existence.
Below you will find some tips and suggestions for "Being With" the energy of "Poor Me" ~ 

Ask yourself, Am I at choice? ~ Are you able to see a glimmer of light in the situation? ~ If you feel completely overwhelmed, you may need to reach out for external help and support. Asking for help is a strength and not a weakness.

Be with your emotions ~ If you are at choice, allow yourself to completely "be with" the emotions that are coming up and connect to them. Giving in to the situation and your emotions is a powerful step.I remember at times deciding to stay in bed with the covers over my head, which created a kind of pressure cooker.

Notice your journey ~ As you experience this situation, notice and observe the journey. Notice your body and where the tension lives. Is it anxiety in your chest? Is it a blocking energy? Is it tension in your throat? Does it have a colour? Is there a memory or experience connected to what you are experiencing. Try to breathe into the block or feeling. Ask yourself if this experience is a pattern? Have I been here before with different people / situations? 

Connect to the Glimmer of Light ~ Allow the natural arc to happen. I always found that if I stayed under the covers a door of awareness would always open. This was always a throw the covers off, realization for me. It was a connection to strength and courage.

Acknowledge ~ Great peace and learning can come from "being with" a situation and the emotion that comes up. Take a moment to acknowledge yourself and your choices. Acknowledge those around you that care for you and support you. 

Remember that this is not a destination and that you may not get through all the suggestions and steps above. This is very much a process. Enjoy the "Eeyore" video below.

When I think of "Poor Me" I think of "Eeyore" from Winnie the Pooh. I can think of many times when I was the embodiment of that energy. Literally stuck in the mud unable to move forward, unable to see where to take my next step and unwilling to take that step. I think of all the wonderful friends that I had who tried so hard to support me and help me get out of the mud. Yet in retrospect, I would say that my biggest struggle was often avoiding fully being present to where I was. It was a tension between where I was and wanting to move forward, rather than really experiencing where I was. I also remember the tension that was created by living in a society where it isn't fully acceptable to "be" broken and embrace the deep, dark emotions. I felt like I didn't always share where I was at in order to protect those around me as I felt it was difficult for those people that cared about me to witness where I was at. I judged myself for even being at such a dark and dreary place in my life. It was in this energy that I discovered the depth and darkness of The Voice of the Saboteur (The Inner Critic / Ego). The Saboteur loves these deep dark places as it feeds its very existence.